As you’re all well aware, from time to time, I like to do a more personal post about whatever is going on in my head and in my life. Instead of prattling about my existence right now, I wanted to talk to you about something I think is painfully overlooked both in life and in the beauty community: inner beauty.
I think often times, in the bustling world we inhabit — one filled with models and materialism and makeup — we completely forget that the things that matter most are not what is reflected on the outside. We think that beauty is equated with being thin, having perfect hair, clear skin, perky everything, flawless makeup… And it’s all just a crock of crap we buy because that’s what everyone is selling it. Irrespective of how beautiful you are, your value and worth lies within yourself. It sounds terribly clichéd, maybe because it is, but there is nothing more important in this world than trying your best to be a good person and do the most you can for others.
I know that I’ve really (unfortunately and much to my disgust) overlooked that in the past few years. I truthfully got swept into a whirlwind of classes and colleges and friends and family and goals that I simply forgot about trying to give back to the community at home and at large. But as I’ve delved deeper and deeper into the charity and volunteer work I’ve fallen in love with, I realize exactly how empty my life felt before it. Sure, I was happy, and yeah, things were peachy. But there is this inexplicable void that, in my case, is filled by afternoons spent with wriggling first graders who just want attention.
Here’s the thing: vanity drives me nuts, and that sounds awfully strange coming from a girl who does makeup tutorials on YouTube. You see, I think it’s one thing to want to feel powerful, pretty, and confident. And for me, makeup is way to put on my battle armor and take on the world on the crappy days where I want to hide under the covers or when I need to square my shoulders and accomplish something daunting. But I think it’s a wholly different issue to be so focused on appearances that other things start to matter less.
That’s the thing that’s always bugged me about parts (not all by any means) of the online beauty community. Hour-long contour routines and thousands of dollars of Chanel are treated like goals and things to strive for, like they’re the ultimate thing to attain or master. And I’m not saying those are bad or that you can’t enjoy them, but that there is more to life than looks. (I know that seems really self-evident, but it’s also incredibly true.)
Spending an hour in the mirror every day isn’t going to better your life or the world. I can say that from personal experience because I tried it. I thought that things would be better, easier, if I just looked a certain way. But I can’t honestly say that it made a lick of difference.
In fact, I can even say that nowadays, I feel the most capable and ready for the world when I’ve got minimal makeup on and have my hair in its natural mess of curls and my rock t-shirts and jeans on because I’m not pretending or changing anything about myself. I think a good deal of that confidence has come with the realization that hating myself or my appearance… well, it’s a damned waste of energy that could be better spent.
I just hope you all know that no matter how attractive you are, you’re so much more than that. Inner beauty is that desire to help others, to be kind and compassionate, to love deeply, to care immensely, to be unashamed of yourself, to be passionate and vivacious, and to what’s right even if no one’s looking. Every one will have a different definition, different reasons, and different ideas for what our ‘inner beauty’ should be. Some might view it as souls or goodness or morality, but I think I’ve always just seen someone’s inner beauty as being their ability to look beyond themselves, in what ever capacity that might be.
I know this pseudo-rant seems a little out of the blue, and maybe a bit like a lecture; but once in a while, we can all use a little reminder that outer beauty is nothing compared to what’s shining just underneath the surface.